Sadness in our house...
M.E. and M.B. have broken up.
Broken hearts all around.
The two of them for obvious reasons--"forever" simply....wasn't.
Me because I hurt for them both: My sweet, brave girl, following her heart and doing what she knows is right and Michael because I know how it feels to lose love.
Young loves are so intense, so passionate, so f***ing REAL...it is impossible to believe when they are over. But then, are they ever really?
I still remember my first love. He is still the gold standard. No one, and I mean no one has ever treated me as well. Should we have married? Absolutely not. We have both had rich, full lives without each other, and I know in my heart that it wasn't meant to be. Maybe if we had met later in life? I don't know. I just know that things work as they should, and painful as it is, sometimes right now isn't the right time, even for a perfect love.
My heart breaks for them both because I love them and I know how they feel. But, I also know that there will be more in their lives than this, and that hopefully, they will always carry love in their hearts for each other. Maybe be friends again. Grow up, and look back at these times and smile. And know, it was a special time for them both.
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That intensity of young love must be built in for some reason. (DOH! I know! LOL)
Still, it's a right of passage. My first b/f was a perfectly nice guy, too. Thankfully, I never had any of those horror stories so many women have experienced.
I agree with your eHarmony post, too. Those questions are so ... shallow ~ and inappropriate. Asking about you-know-what right away seems very odd to me as well.
Nice blog! I will definitely be back. :)
Peace,
~Chani (Thailand Gal)
I remember that first breakup and the drama that goes with it. Have you administered the appropriate prescription of ice cream yet? BTW, becker's comment is enough to break your heart!
On another note, about the alibi thing on my blog -- I'm lucky enough to have a few girlfriends and a couple of gay male friends who would be my 'alibi' without hesitation or even blinking! At a particularly dark moment one of my male friends and I hypothetically planned the ’accidental’ death of his life partner and my soon-to-be ex. His involved a power failure, a steep set of stairs down to the basement and a unfortunately placed wine bottle. Mine involved a tragic death on a foreign vacation to a third world country and a hasty cremation before returning home. I know it’s very dark and morbid, but sometimes a girl needs an outlet. I swear that it will never happen, but I have made all my friends promise to stop me from flying overseas with the evil soon-to-be ex … just in case!
I love that you have great gay guy friends...along with my girl friends they are the closest thing to real family I have.
on the note of revenge, I knew a woman once who when her soon to be ex was going off for a week with the replacement girlfriend slipped a handgun into his carryon. Now THATS style!!! She is one of my heros.
Here's my favorite revenge story: I use to work at the corporate offices for Hyatt Hotel's International division. It was well known that if a VP there hired a 'special assistant' it was his/her new mistress (we had one lesbian VP). One VP's wife found out about his 'special assistant' and went to his office. His secretary was use to seeing her and didn't know that she knew about the affair. The wife made copies of EVERYTHING she could get her hands on as he had is own copier in his office. Needless to say, she really cleaned up in the divorce. The next day all of the other VPs called their secretaries and told them in no uncertain terms that their wives were never to be alone in their offices!
Second favorite story: When a local female dentist found out that her husband was sleeping with their nanny, she went to his office and formatted the hard drive on his computer!
Next topic: Gay guys as friends. Two of my best friends in the world are gay men. I would give them a kidney in a heartbeat. I love them for their loyalty, humor, kindness, amazing taste, and that we can scope out guys together without competing!
Amen to that! my friends actually chose the color for my den, and repainted it for me to help "purge" my ex from the house...the great part is: they picked a color that makes me lood great--they said: why would you paint a room a color that doesn't go with your skin tone? duh? NONE of my girlfriends or I have ever thought of this! its brilliant!
I know what you mean. One of my gay friends is a brilliant decorator. I love shopping with him. He's so cute when I show him something and say, "Do I like this?" If its 'no' he wrinkles his nose.
My niece just broke up with her first love. They are both devastated, both wise enough to know they are too young. She told him, "If we stay together at this point, we'll just end up having awful affairs when we're 28..." I guess she's learning along the way.
and your previous post.... you're stunning, absolutely beautiful.
lu, what a wise young woman your niece is...I just love knowing that there are strong women coming along--the world needs it!
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